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What Kills Relationships
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Nicole Gayle
http://www.new-dating.com
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In a moment I'm going to tell you the root cause that kills all relationship and strangled yours. Right now you're suffering because of your relationship. The emotional turmoil and pain you're in because of your breakup or relationship problem is costing you your quality of life.
You may have searched for the answer to the question, "how do I get my ex back" and I'm going to help you by showing you why your relationship broke up.
It is not about loss of interest, loss of attraction or incompatibility. It is much deeper so read on.
Breakups and relationships problems takes place because of one reason: hidden beliefs.
Here is how to know if you have beliefs that is hurting your relationship:
1. You often find yourself thinking negatively about love/romantic relationships. It is difficult for you to consistently assume you are creating success or you can create the success you want in relationships.
2. No matter how hard you try, you can't seem to attract, meet and keep a potential partner. You feel resentful/stuck and self-pity.
3. You often get into a dating situation where the person you're really attracted to doesn't want what you want. In other words, you are always left with a low-level convenient type of arrangement while dating, ie. Serial daters/Friends with benefits types/ etc.
4. You find yourself with partners who are evasive/controlling. You're often in push/pull situations. You often feel let down and faced with many empty promises.
5. You face breakups often. You're always the person who gets dumped.
6. You have a general belief that men are jerks, lie, cheat, want to be friends with benefits, are losers, and just don't want to commit these days.
7. You are always worried while you're in relationships. You tend to give of yourself completely and not get your feelings reciprocated.
8. You find yourself stuck in unsatisfying relationships where your partner(s) doesn't commit to you the way you know you deserve.
9. You're find yourself getting pulled in when you feel attraction for someone you think could make a great partner. It's difficult or impossible for you to control your emotions and you often see yourself creating a make belief relationship even if it's only been a few dates.
10. You make bad decisions often. When relationships are new, you agree to things like sex because you believe it will bring your partner closer. You believe it will make your partner want you more.
11. Sometimes you find yourself keep moving towards someone even if they keep rejecting you and it's difficult to have self-control. You find yourself craving for attention and will end up contacting your partner excessively. For example, too many phone calls, text messages, emails.
12. You talk about your relationship pain often or you get together with individuals who encourage your feelings of anger, hurt, pain and frustration by making partners you're with to blame for not responding to you the way you'd like.
Hidden false beliefs is the one and only reason why you are having relationship problems. If you want to save your relationship or get your ex back, you must know the role of beliefs in destroying your relationship.
People act the way they believe. They also do what they believe. It is impossible to believe something and not do it. When people say they believe something and don't do it, they actually don't believe it.
You were taught certain things about love. When you're functioning in a relationship, you are actually acting out your unconscious programs. If you have false beliefs about what relationships should look like, you are going to act out those false beliefs in ways that causes your partner to lose attraction for you. These are unattractive habits that you may be so unaware of but it triggers a reaction in your partner and cause emotional withdrawal.
When you have the right beliefs, you can save your relationship because you will act in a way that is amazingly appealing to your ex or partner. When your ex sees this kind of emotional intelligence, you will fix the root cause of why your breakup took place.
If you want to get a second chance to save your relationship, you must stop acting in the ways that are rooted in your beliefs and start to get the results you've been searching for.
It is critical to know how to get your ex to feel good about talking to you again. If you're not able to do this, you wont get your relationship back.
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Nicole Gayle
http://www.new-dating.com
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